Fife College students who are doing their HNC in Journalism recently visited our home in Glenrothes, Finavon Court. They interviewed residents to increase their news reporting skills and the set up was very professional. They were interviewing residents on how dating has changed over the years – which then sparked the question in our discussion group of wether technology has had a negative effect on romance or not.
The social rules for dating change from one generation to the next. Speaking to the residents of Kingdom Homes, this became quite apparent. They spoke of meeting their significant other in the most romantic of ways – not like the way most couples meet now.
One resident spoke of being formally introduced to her partner by her parents – this, she explained, would be the only way she could have met a partner. The practice of a formal introduction seems silly to a younger generation but, as another resident explained, it was common for your parents to choose your partner.
In a world where social interaction was, social, it seemed people got to know each other before engaging in relationships. However, nowadays, it is thought that we judge people based solely on physical appearance. Explaining the latest way of online dating to residents – began with laughter – the thought of having access to thousands of different ‘profiles’ and through this we would decide based on a 30-word blog and a hand-picked selection of pictures wether they were worth giving our time to seemed ludicrous and quite unbelievable. But it is the reality of dating in the 21st century. One resident compared this to when people began to use newspapers and magazines to make their wishes of meeting someone known. She explained that there was always concern that these ads were the most dangerous way of dating – and was shocked to think that this mirrors what is normal in today’s dating scene.
Explaining the phenomenon that is ‘texting’ – a dating term that is only as modern as a mobile phone – this allowed for the residents to reminisce about the use of phones whilst they were dating. Remembering sitting by the phone, waiting for the phone call from the person they had given their number. One lady laughed, remembering checking the phone cord to see if it was still connected to the wall, worrying that this would be the reason she hadn’t received the call she was waiting for. They described the phone calls being short – only lasting a few moments then they would then eagerly await the first date. Nowadays, you spend weeks, sometimes months, ‘texting’ and building an image of how wonderful a person is – which can end in disappointment when you finally meet sending you to the beginning of the cycle again.
Which begged the question – which no generation could answer – has modern technology killed romance?